Times of Change
If you have ever moved to a different city, state or even country, you know that change can be very stressful. My husband was recently accepted for a transfer at work from Phoenix to Prescott, AZ. We had been waiting for this opportunity to open up since we moved to Phoenix to be with our family a year-and-a-half ago. Not fond of the summer heat, we jumped all over it and moved with our daughter and grandson.
Aside from the fact I was without Internet service for almost two weeks, and feeling extremely concerned that I had missed sending out two newsletters to my subscribers, the move went rather well. However, with any move, there is a bit of adjusting to the new environment and being able to locate items that had been packed.
Some people do not handle change as well. It frustrates them and creates stress in their lives. However, change is all part of life and we must deal with it the best we can. As a grandparent raising grandchildren, you may be feeling, or have felt, the stress of change in your life.
If you are one who does not react well to change, you might find the following tips helpful when dealing with your transition:
- Understand that change is inevitable. Change happens and we often do not have any control of it.
- Recognize what part of the change frustrates you the most. Is it the lack of control of the situation, or the disruption of your routine?
- Identify a support system of people you can talk to about your feelings and frustrations. They can be family, friends, co-workers or a coach.
- Identify your strengths that can contribute to making the change happen. Be an active participant or facilitator of the change. Utilize your talents in the process.
- Keep an open mind about the change. You may find some amazing opportunities waiting for you!
- Identify the positive factors of the change. Look at the glass as half full instead of half empty. What are the benefits to this change?
- Talk to your grandchildren about the change. Allow them to express their feelings so you can put their minds at ease.
Change can be frustrating to many people, especially children. It creates uncertainty, fear and anxiety. However, we can take an active role in making the transition easier. By following a few steps, we can take control of the situation creating a more positive and successful transition for you and your grandchildren.
Warm regards,
Kay L. Fontana
